Is 49 old? (but don’t you two answer that!!!)
Is it just me or does everyone wonder if they are old yet?
I turn 49 tomorrow. I know it’s pretty old, 49 just doesn’t feel as old as I thought it would.
Things have definitely changed, specifically my eye sight and penchant for a night in but other than that I feel the same as I ever did.
Alain de Botton says, “By the time we are 50, we are definitely in the suburbs of mortality.” And no matter how you look at it, I am closer to the end than to the beginning but it’s not all bad news.
There is a new word, ‘quintastics’ coined for fantastic 50-year-olds like George Clooney and Sandra Bullock.
And quite practically, I think some of my best years might be ahead.
I go to yoga three times a week. I wanted to do that years ago but I never had time. These days I literally have nothing better to do at four o’clock in the afternoon.
I’ve got time for lots of things now. Time to take care of myself. Time to grow veggies and read more books. I am not saying I do any of these things but my point is, I could if I tried. And I’m not fifty yet, I’m just warming up.
I don’t get upset about politics anymore. I used to feel passionate about change and frustrated with Canberra or state parliament. These days I figure most people will never change their political views and so it’s better to simply nod and say ‘hmmm’ understandingly. Agitation is a young person’s game.
It doesn’t mean I no longer have an opinion, I just accept people disagree with me. Even some of the people I love most in the world.
There is actually scientific research to back that up. Apparently, stress levels decline steadily from 20 to 50, fall off a cliff at 50, then decline steadily again to the grave. Maybe because we feel like we have passed the baton, ‘serenity to accept the things I cannot change…’ and all that.
Looks are definitely an issue. In my mind’s eye, I look the same as I did 20 years ago. Maintaining the deception simply means I have to avoid shop fronts, car windows and looking down when I turn on the camera in my phone.
In general, I try not to lose much sleep over getting older because it happens to everyone. If they’re lucky.
In the 1960’s environmental activist Jack Weinberg became famous for saying ‘Don’t trust anyone over thirty.’ Mr Weinberg turned 77 this year.
My body is worse but my clothes are better, my kids are gone but my house is clean, my friends are close and we can afford the good wine.
I turn 49 tomorrow. Let the festival of 50 begin.